Helpful Tips for Parents

• Parent self-care is not optional — it's functional. A parent who is rested, supported, and regulated manages child behavior more effectively than an exhausted one. Put on your own oxygen mask first.

• Children who feel capable and competent have fewer behavioral issues. Giving children real responsibilities (chores, choices, contributions) is more effective prevention than any discipline strategy.

• Child development knowledge is the foundation of effective parenting. Understanding what is developmentally normal prevents enormous amounts of unnecessary conflict and worry.

• Routines are containment for preschoolers — they reduce daily decisions and the attendant negotiation, meltdowns, and fatigue. A predictable day is a calmer day.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do I stop yelling at my preschooler?

Yelling at children is nearly universal among parents and produces shame, not behavior change. Practical strategies: recognize your own warning signs of escalation and remove yourself briefly before yelling; lower your voice rather than raising it (a very quiet, calm voice is more arresting than shouting); have prepared scripts for high-frustration moments; address your own sleep deprivation, hunger, and stress (yelling correlates strongly with parent depletion). If yelling is frequent and intense, speaking with a therapist about parenting stress is appropriate and effective.

Related reading: See also our screen time guidelines and our preschool sleep guide for more ideas on this topic.

🎓 Skills Your Child Will Develop

• 🧩 Problem-Solving Mindset — Parents who coach children through problems rather than solving them are building the independent problem-solving disposition that distinguishes capable, resilient learners from dependent, avoidant ones.
• ⚡ Executive Function — Consistent routines, clearly communicated expectations, and age-appropriate responsibilities build the executive function children need to self-regulate, plan ahead, and manage the demands of school and daily life.
• 📚 Early Literacy Foundation — Daily shared reading, access to books, and language-rich environments at home are the most powerful predictors of reading success — and parental reading habits shape children's reading identities for life.
• 💪 Resilience & Grit — Children whose parents normalize struggle, celebrate effort over outcome, and model recovery from failure develop the resilience and perseverance that predict success in school, relationships, and professional life.

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Plan Safety Into Your Preschooler's Party

by KG May

Your preschooler's birthday party is probably the last place you expect a discussion about safety. A preschooler's party is about having fun and sharing good times with family and friends. Certainly you care about your preschooler's safety and that of their guest, but you prefer to focus on celebrating life and just having fun-right? Well, you can do both.

Birthday parties are a great place to talk safety. You have an accessible audience. The topic, though serious, doesn't have to upstage your party theme. It's easy to plan, inexpensive and the preschoolers will still have a great time.

Take A Photo For Identification

Take a Polaroid picture of each child as they enter the party. On the back of the photo, write the preschooler's name, age and contact information. You and your preschooler can make beautiful handmade frames from construction paper ahead of time. Add the picture to the frame. The frame makes a great party favor. Current photographs provide law officials with an excellent visual record of a child and lead to increased recognition and recovery times.

Share A Great Safety Message

While the preschoolers take a break to eat, show a quirky video or read a funny story that has a safety message like Stranger Danger , created by John Walsh, host of America's Most Wanted, and Baby Einstein's Julie Clark or pick up the Child Safety DVD, both available at www.mypreciouskid.com . Packed with loads of information, these videos are educational as well as entertaining.

Reinforce Safety Messages Through Play

As kids line up for traditional games like Pin the Tail on the Donkey or wait for a swat at a Pinata, ask them to answer questions about the video they viewed. If you don't show a video, just write out a short list of general safety questions. Wrong answers are okay. Just give a chuckle and give the right answer as you hold out the donkey's tail.

Give The Preschoolers Something To Take Home

Child identification kits are a great take-away gift. Most kits include a child identification card, fingerprint ink strips and DNA collection bags. Add the photo you took of each child at the beginning of the party to their identification card. Parents can help the kids complete the identification card at home. The kids will get a kick out of being fingerprinted and parents will appreciate having a complete record ready to give to law enforcement officials, if the need arises. Most identification kits can be purchased in bulk for a little as $1.00 a kit.

Emphasize Fun

Don't overstate the safety message. You are planning a party and your message is probably for a young audience. If the message is too strong it may distract from the purpose of your gathering. Your safety message, while important, should only be a small element of the wonderful day you have planned.

Other cool give away ideas include safety sing-along music or coloring pages. A free 20-page child safety coloring book and identification kits can be ordered from

www.YourSafeChild.com or from www.Child-Identification-Products.com .

KG May is a freelance writer who lives in Bowie, MD. S